Are You Feeling Stuck?
Are you feeling stuck - in your relationship, with your man? Or in your career, in your life?
When we feel stuck - or overwhelmed, or stressed - it is often because our masculine energy has taken over our life. Our urge to do, to take action, to think and analyse rules our every step. It is a very controlling energy. No wonder we feel stuck.
It is like a force inside of us. We may find ourselves anxious, and “unable” to “produce” for whatever reason. Or we just have no idea how to complete a task. We “think” we have no idea what “to do” to change our situation and to “make something happen”.
So we feel stuck.
This is where our frustration builds on more and more, and since we probably don't like this feeling of frustration, we resist feeling it. This frustration may increase up to the point where it makes us feel angry and demotivated instead.
And once we get to that state, we will feel even more stuck.
In a state of anger, resentment and demotivation we are likely to start blaming or judging. Either ourselves - or others.
It´s our man, he is at fault. He is not doing enough in the relationship, that is why the relationship is stuck.
Its our boss. He is too demanding, he doesnt listen. That is why my career is stuck.
Its our parents, our school, society and politicians. It´s their fault that I am stuck. If society was different, if men were different… If only….
If you ever felt like this, please know you are not alone. We all feel that way at times. It makes sense and it is ok.
We may be too “big” to admit that we sometimes feel judgment, guilt, jealousy or any other “not-so-accepted” feeling - however, please know that there is nothing wrong with these feelings.
You are allowed to feel that way. These emotions exist for a reason - and that reason is to help us. Being kind, gentle and welcoming to these things, even if we don’t “like” them, even if we “don´t want to be like that” - is what will actually make them dissipate the quickest.
If your first go to is to blame yourself, it is likely that you take responsibility for things you shouldn't take responsibility for. Then you feel even worse and even more stuck.
And I want to say to you, it's ok! It is ok to feel stuck sometimes. In your relationship, with your man, in your dating. Gentle kindness will do the “trick” (if there even is a trick here).
Awareness is key. When you find yourself stuck, in a masculine energy mode where you feel a need to PUSH through the “stuckness” - instead be gentle with yourself.
Be kind to yourself when you find yourself stuck. Be kind to yourself even if you judge or blame.
When you turn towards compassion for yourself, you invite in a little bit of that feminine energy needed to move you out of the stuckness. And just this little awareness and compassion is what is needed to allow yourself to STOP. Stop right where you are, and let yourself BE instead of pushing through.
Lean back on your chair and breathe. You have all the time in the world.
And then turn to your feminine energy for answers.
If you are feeling stuck, you probably want solutions. Solutions require creativity.
Creativity is Feminine Energy.
Feminine energy is what will help you get unstuck. Whether it is in your dating situation, in your relationship or in any other situation in your life.
If you feel stuck with your man, TRUST the process. Trust your Feminine Energy, and that once you tune in to your creativity - the feminine energy in itself will do the heavy lifting in the relationship.
You don´t have to figure it out. You don´t have to go into your head and “problemsolve”. Once you are in your feminine energy the creativity needed to change your situation and get out of feeling stuck, will come to you.
If you want to discover more on how to get out of feeling stuck and instead move into your feminine energy and connect deeply with yourself AND your man, please don´t hesitate. Hit the button below and book your call.
One of the absolute best ways of activating the Creative Feminine Energy is through movement, like walking, dancing, yoga or Tai Chi. Something that makes it possible for stuck energy flow through your body. New fresh air, filling you up as you increase your heart rate.
And for Feminine Energy to flow to you and through you, one of the absolute best ways is to move your hips/belly/pelvis.
Why?
We women tend to hold a lot of tension in our bodies. And especially we hold a lot of tension in our wombs.
We are so disconnected from this place of ourselves - our Feminine Energy Creativity center - that we have totally shut it down. We are not even aware of how much tension we can build up in there. It´s like all the stresses and worries of our life accumulates down there…
So take a moment now and feel….can you feel your yoni and your womb (or this place in your body if you haven´t got one)?
Do you know how to relax it?
Now gently just tilt your pelvis from side to side, and back and forth. How does it feel?
Some of us not only hold tension here - we also experience huge pains. Pain inside of us and pain in our lower back.
Pain increases the tension and so we hold even tighter…. The flow of energy can be completely blocked.
If you are experiencing cycle issues, infertility or general pains in this area - connecting to this part of you, and consciously starting to release tension may help.
But this is not why I bring it up.
I bring it up because your ability to be in connection with and consciously soften this part of your body will be one of the most powerful keys to connect with your man.
Try it, whenever you are with your man. Intentionally soften your womb space, your Yoni. Focus on how good it feels to relax down there. Feel the energy returning. Feel how you are able to be warm, soft and receiving. This is the most receiving and creative part of yourself.
See what happens with your man or your date when you soften there. You will be amazed!
BUT. What to do, if you have a lot of tension and softening your womb space doesn´t come natural? Maybe you feel totally blocked and don´t know how to soften?
Then I got good news! Because sometimes a couple of minutes of pelvic / hip movement is enough to release the tension and help you bring you out of your head and down into your pelvis - releasing old, stuck energy and open for new, flowing creativity.
Moving your hips in horisontal circles is wonderful for this. If you can make it part of your daily routine to move your pelvis in circles - like a sensual dance, like hoola hoops or belly dancing it will quickly help you release the tension. It makes the energy flow.
So try it out…Moving your hips in circles, in figure eights or similar. Dance. Once you moved your body for a while, you will feel so much more creative! You will FEEL how the tension flows away as you open the door to your creative centre.
If you need help in this process, and want to learn more on how to access your feminine energy - don´t hesitate. Book a free call with me and we will talk about your situation.
This is the moment where you can really indulge in a creative activity, train yourself to move out of your mind and into the creative state that will help you solve problems and get out of stuckness.
You will move to Feminine and Masculine energy in harmony. You in harmony with yourself.
Once the feminine energy flow is open, you will have the creativity needed to move out of feeling stuck.
And if you really want to connect with your feminine energy - continue with more creative activities to bring out even more feminine energy.
Here are some examples of creative things to do:
dancing
free movement
drawing /painting
singing
cooking
baking
carpentry
walking
sewing
knitting
puzzles
gardening
arranging flowers or furniture
writing a poem
listen to music
play an instrument
taste food
make an experiment
The list goes on…what do YOU like to do? What can you add, what makes your creativity flow?
I´d love to know - share with me in the comments.
Love,
Eva