Navigating Long Distance Relationship

Once I was in a long distance relationship.

I had just come out of a divorce. 

I remember the ups and downs - the hope, the expectations and the new freedom after being divorced… living alone… and at the same time the rollercoasters of emotions… of sadness and loneliness and fear.

Apart from the divorce, I had suffered major losses in my family.

And then I met him. He was far away, yes. But he felt close.

Even though he wasn't there - he was there. Every day through text and phone calls he was there checking in on me. I could feel his energy coming towards me.

Every time we met it was like sparkles and rose colour shimmer and joy and expectations and hope for new future and also pain fear sadness desperation.

It was turbulence.

I remember somewhat consciously thinking maybe “he's the one” and then in the next second I had this gut feeling that his ONLY purpose in this was to carry me through.

His purpose was to carry me through the emotional rollercoaster of the losses and the pain in my life that had nothing to do with him.

The relationship didn't last. But I still know that it served a very important purpose.

I know that he was a messenger.

A very important messenger. 

Because he showed me some of the things that I never thought would be possible for me in terms of having love.

Long distance relationships are difficult at the least. Sometimes they work out - and sometimes not. We can only be ready when we are ready and sometimes we are just in different dimensions of readiness….

So if you are in a long distance relationship right now - perhaps wishing for more - ask yourself:

What is the message in this for me?

What is this experience giving me that I need right now?

Long distance relationships can be safe and they can provide a lot of the things we need. 

…..we can only be ready when we are ready….

If you are in a long distance relationship, some part of you may not yet be ready for the deep intimacy of a close physical relationship - and that is so okay!

You can still have a beautiful experience. 

However…. if you find yourself feeling more pain….more loneliness…. more desperation - than you feel the good stuff…

Then it's perhaps time to take a deeper look at what you really want in your love life.

This doesn’t mean you have to leave. And it doesn’t mean you stay stuck.

It only means exploring your desire and opening up your options in one way or another.

It means exploring LIFE through the lens of your feminine energy.

It means navigating the ocean of love with an openness to everyone around you.

This way you slowly build more tolerance for the closeness and intimacy you crave.

And in the end, that is what is going to pull that distant man towards you, IF he is your forever man. 

Because when you are true to you, to your own feelings…and what you really, really want in a relationship…this is what will manifest.

And I can help you in this process. I know how to build a secure relationship - with both yourself and a man.

Life loves you and wants you to be happy. Are you ready?

Just hit the button to talk to me about how Love Transformation Coaching might help you in your situation.